In December 2014, when Edie Weinstein wrote 30 Important Questions to Ask Before We Commit to a Relationship, for the Elephant Journal the article took off like a firestorm.
“So many people create new relationships on the wreckage of old interactions. As Joe Jackson sagely says “You can’t get what you want, til you know what you want.”
As if that wasn’t enough to strike a chord for readers, her list provided not only food for thought but actionable wise insights for anyone thinking about their new relationship or wondering what happened to a broken one.
How do I define relationship?
My current definition involves two people who have a common and merged vision, who communicate it openly and who take steps daily to strengthen and support that bond. As a minister who has married over 300 couples since 1999, I have witnessed this dynamic with many of them. Although my parents came from “different sides of the track,” with divergent socio-economic background, love and that intention sustained their nearly 52 year marriage.
What am I unwilling to accept?
Control, abuse, addiction, emotional manipulation, my own co-dependent tendencies taking hold, selling my soul for love, financial irresponsibility, lying, expectation that I act as caregiver and primary emotional strength in the relationship and that I clean up the “messes,” literally or symbolically.
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